Older women are more internally attractive than younger women.
If in any way you meet and you see that she’s got the plastic surgery going on, has lied about her age, then you know where you are at with her.
They have nothing to lose by being and showing who they genuinely are. If you cannot say it in person then send a short email. We’ve had plenty experience of raising children, we don’t need to be a mommy to you. Know that many of us are quite experienced in relationships and we know how to treat a good man. We are used to having lots of space in a relationship. Hey men, if you are going to see a woman in another state for the first time, make sure you know what you are doing.
If the woman offers to call you first, know that she is not afraid of making the first move and doesn’t conform to the traditional old ways.
And ask yourself if you want to be with someone who has totally misrepresented herself.
If it’s honesty and directness you are seeking, know that many older woman come out way ahead in this area. Pay for her on the first date, even if she offers to pay her share. Don’t say you want to see her again if you are full of sh*t. And don’t do it because you are looking for a mommy. Don’t keep pestering her because it will come to an unhappy conclusion or blocking you from her site. Many of us are confident, used to being alone and on our own, so don’t feel that we want to be with you every minute of the day, because we don’t. Many of us had much experience with BS and we know when it’s coming at us.
Again, it’s a turnon to a woman to have the man go out of his way to meet a woman. Same goes if you are going to meet at a certain time, and you are going to be late, text her and let her know. Neither one of you knows ahead of time where this will go. The most important is in getting to know one another, having fun, being honest and upfront. But once you go that route if you feel uncomfortable don’t do it. Give us at least some sample of what you look like. Please don’t make your profile sooooo long that it will totally bore us and even though you may look good, you will be passed by because of overwhelm. Most cases if a woman doesn’t respond to your first response, it means she’s not interested. Be aware that if we see something ain’t workin for us, but working for you and we can’t work it out, that’s probably the end of the relationship. If she’s desperate and is afraid of being alone, stay away, far, far away. She has had a lot of experience in having fun with children.
If she feels you are totally into learning about her that is a real turn on, especially if you have a sense of humor. Just like you don’t want someone to misrepresent themselves to you, don’t misrepresent to them. She will want to meet you in a public place and allow her to make arrangements to meet, mainly in her hood. If you can’t then text her and make a plan for another time. We know at this stage about not changing the other person but accepting them the way they are. If you have children, don’t be afraid of introducing her to them.
It’s uncomfortable for both, and there’s no way of having any kind of fun or spontaneous conversation. If the picture you have online is what she will see in person, don’t come walking in looking nothing like your photo, either being fifty pounds heavier, the photo was taken when you were twenty years younger.
Older women should be cynical about younger men who claim they want to date seriously, or remain silent about commitment. Women peak somewhere in their twenties for external attractiveness. In general, men disagree about the age at which women "peak" - partially because it varies depending on the woman and partially because guys have different taste.