For many reasons, it is difficult for him to make room for something real. Wide-Eyed but Distractable This primarily 20 to mid 30's guy is excited about the possibility of expanding his horizons and meeting new people.
Rather, he moves from one online-created connection to the next, or back and forth between many, and barely if ever have to leave the house.
Internet dating enables him not to engage in a meaningful way.
(This category may also include the desire to act out sexual fantasies and fetishes that couldn’t previously be realized).
Interestingly, fantasy can be so powerful for him that when reality fails to compete, he finds ways to fade away.
Either way, these scenarios may take a long time to play out. Already Taken He wants to know what else is out there, but won’t necessarily act on it. Either way, he is not planning to leave his current relationship, but feels like he is missing out on something.
Or perhaps something pivotal is missing in his relationship, and he wants to be reminded or reassured there is life beyond his current confines.
After all, he has experienced love before, which is why he’s so heartbroken now, and why you encountered him online.
However, it is equally possible for him to remain non-committal when he is still hung up on someone else, so proceed with caution.
However, starting a relationship with a lie—now matter how “harmless” it may seem to him—takes away from the woman’s ability to use her own discretion and decision-making power and therefore erodes trust.
When she inevitably finds out, she typically finds the age difference and the lie far more jarring than he had anticipated.
Sometimes he will admit to the women he finds online that he is using Internet dating as a diversion, and sometimes he won’t.