Teenagers haven’t yet learned how resilient the heart is.
The first time they experience romantic rejection, the sadness can seem bottomless.
However, you might not recognize it as dating per se.
The recent trend among early adolescents is for boys and girls to socialize as part of a group.
When you’re older and ready to start dating, I hope that you will do the same. ” Adults generally take a cynical view of teenage romance, as if it were a chemical imbalance in need of correction. “You know what they’re like when their hormones start raging.” A boy and a girl float down the street holding hands, dizzy in love, and all parents see is testosterone and estrogen out on a date.
Just look at the words used to describe affection between two young people: “infatuation,” “crush,” “puppy love.” If it feels like love to the two puppies, isn’t it love?
The breakup of a romance can be painful at any stage of life.
Still, when an adult relationship ends badly, at least the wounded party knows from having weathered other disappointments that the all-too-familiar hollow feeling and veil of depression will inevitably lift.
If you see schoolwork start to suffer and friendships fall by the wayside, it is reasonable to restrict the number of times Romeo and Juliet can rendezvous during the school week.
High-school romances tend to have limited life spans.
Acknowledge your teen’s pain but assure her that she will be happy again.
“I understand how upset you are, and I know you may feel like your sadness is never going to go away.
”) and, if applicable, divorce (“Dad, how can two people love each other for years and years, then stop being in love? Having an imperfect romantic résumé yourself does not disqualify you from initiating this conversation.