How did/does the age gap impact your relationship once you were in it?
Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all.
Woman A: The longest lasting of these relationships started when I was 18 and he was 40. However, we didn't start dating until I was 18 and he was 36. They split up around 2009 and I didn't hear from him for 18 months. Do you think your age was part of the attraction for him?
I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him.
Because he had a reluctance to grow up, he wanted to stay young in as many ways as possible.
None of my friends at school understood the relationship and they had no interest in hanging out with him when he would come visit me at school.
Additionally, the friends that he had that were his age were incredibly judgmental of my age and the relationship.
As a younger, or transitioning individual, this stability may be exactly what you need. You can be sure that he won’t play games like millennials, since he’s past his prime player years. Mature men have refined tastes, and that isn’t limited to his pallet. Advice and wisdom will be readily available from someone who isn’t your parent, but is equally wise.
He can show you things you never knew possible, and you can teach him that new trick you learned in Cosmo. You won’t be dealing with the same texting, mixed signal bullshit that you’ve experienced in the past.
The next time we ran into each other was when I went to interview for a job in the ski resort's lift department, which he happened to be in charge of. I think he can't really find a woman to keep up with him, even in his own age group. The man I dated was essentially an 18-year-old himself when it came to maturity.